SPARK Talks 2019: Week 5

How often are you experiencing happiness? Meghan Pope shares how she finds joy regardless of her circumstances. Lena Schuler talks about having a meaningful life. Is it magic, math, or myth? Brian Tome talks about how you can have a prosperous life.

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    I've been painting for years, but it wasn't until about four
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    years ago while I was studying abroad in Spain that God gave me
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    a vision for Hosanna revival.
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    I had this idea to rebound and paint my bilingual Bible because
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    it was plain black and I wanted it to be beautiful and
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    personal, a reflection of the way that the words on the inside
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    really made me feel.
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    There God sparked in me a vision to use my artwork for something
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    way beyond what I could have ever imagined, something that
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    would draw other women closer to him.
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    The vision was simple: use beautiful artwork to attract women to
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    scripture.
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    It seemed crazy at first, and it really wasn't being done
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    anywhere else, but God showed me where it could go.
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    The question was, was I willing to follow?
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    Once I stopped wrestling and said, yes, that spark finally
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    caught and everything took off from there.
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    God makes cells, volcanoes, and literally puts the stars in the
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    sky.
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    He makes every single thing that exists.
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    And I'm painting replicas of his creations.
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    God, the original creator, created me in his image and sharing
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    that with Him is such a gift.
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    I think no matter what we're creating, whether it's food in the
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    kitchen or spaces for people to feel welcomed and loved,
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    knowing that our creations can really draw people to Jesus is a
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    fuel to the fire.
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    And that's absolutely why I create.
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    I'm Katie and God is igniting life in me through helping women
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    discover the true creator.
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    Yeah, I love hearing from people who love what they do.
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    It may not be my thing all the time, but if you're passionate
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    about what you're doing, then I want to hear more about that.
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    So, if we haven't met yet, my name is Justin and one of the
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    things I'm passionate about is music.
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    Music helps center me, it helps ground me in a moment.
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    It helps me express some things that just other things can't or
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    don't.
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    And so around here we use music to connect to God.
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    We sing songs about Him and to Him.
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    And that's how we're going to start today.
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    So if you're in the room with us, stand with us.
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    If you're at home, turn it up.
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    We're going to singing together.
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    Jesus, the very whisper of your name cancels out darkness.
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    Jesus, your name destroys every single thing that has tried to
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    work against us to keep us down.
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    Your name, Jesus, is enough.
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    It's enough.
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    So, God, I just pray over every person in this room, every
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    person watching, God, that they would hear Your name and feel
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    darkness flee.
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    Got, that they would hear your name and feel the weight come off
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    of their shoulders.
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    God, that they would hear Your name and know that You know them.
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    You know what they're going through and you will lift
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    burdens just with the whisper of your name.
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    So God, we praise You, we thank You.
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    We love You.
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    In Your precious holy name we pray. Amen.
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    It was amazing worshipping with you.
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    Seriously, it's an honor to do this with you all.
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    So we want you to know each other.
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    So why did you say hi to someone next to you?
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    Maybe tell them what you did
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    yesterday. And then after you do that, have a seat. I"m glad that you are here with us.
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    It's no secret if you'd been around a length of time that I like
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    motorcycles, but you might not know the origin of how that came
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    about.
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    It was the craziest, most stupid idea I thought that I'd ever
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    heard up to that point.
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    I was in a group meeting with a bunch of men in the mornings.
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    We were meeting for a couple of years.
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    Then one of the guys said, "Hey, why don't we -- Why don't we
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    take our wives, fly out to Vegas, rent motorcycles and like
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    hang out for four days or so with everybody?".
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    And I thought that was utterly ridiculous.
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    It was outside my mind of how someone should spend their time,.
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    outside my mind of how someone should spend their money.
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    I hadn't written a motorcycle since I was twenty two years old
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    and I was married for three weeks and I sold it because we were
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    low on cash.
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    And I hadn't written a motorcycle since and I hadn't thought of
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    riding one since.
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    And my body was on overdrive, medically speaking, my adrenal
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    glands were fried.
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    They were open all the time worrying about budget things,
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    staffing things, preaching things, all kind of stuff.
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    And so play was nowhere on my mind at all.
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    We decided to go because I put in my mind of, "Oh, well, this
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    will be sort of ministry, so I could actually make it work
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    because I'm trying to build on these guys and their marriages.
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    So I'll be able to do that.".
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    And what I experienced blew me away.
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    I got restored, I got refreshed, and it actually opened up an
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    entire new lease on life.
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    Two things I've learned that make life work, purpose and play.
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    If you don't have purpose, your life won't work.
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    And if you don't have play, your life won't work.
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    I can think of these on two axis.
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    I've kind of devised this.
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    I've been thrown around people and it seems to make sense.
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    We have the x axis, which is purpose and the y axis which is
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    play.
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    These are two things that if you don't have these things, your
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    life is not going to work well.
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    What is purpose?
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    Purpose is when you have a point for living that day, when you
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    have a to do list, you have things you've got to get done.
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    You've got people you've got to talk to.
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    You've got something that's propelling you to get up in the day.
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    It's moving your day forward.
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    That's why I like it on the x axis.
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    You're kind of moving.
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    It's like chop, chop, chop, chop.
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    What is play?
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    Play is utterly unproductive.
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    You're not moving.
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    You're not chop chop.
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    If you are moving and chop chop on a motorcycle at 80 miles an
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    hour, you're moving and chop, chopping because you're not
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    thinking about anything else that's going to add to your
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    paycheck.
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    You don't thinking about anything else that's going to increase
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    your notoriety with people.
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    You're not thinking about anything else that's going to justify
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    that time.
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    You are off and you start to get restored.
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    When you see that the intersection of purpose and play, if you
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    see somebody who has in the lower right corner, who has all
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    purpose, they're going where they need to go.
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    They're work in bookoo hours every week.
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    I don't even know what bookoo hours is, but bookoo for you might
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    not be bookoo for you.
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    It's a matter of your own personal capacity.
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    When you see somebody that's all about where they're going, what
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    they're doing, and that's all they're doing, it's all they're
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    about, their life eventually becomes painful, becomes painful.
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    This is where I was.
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    My adrenal glands were fried.
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    I was breaking down physically, gaining weight, back getting
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    worse and worse.
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    I was having to convince myself to do things like preach, which
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    I love and I know is important, but I was having to convince
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    myself and try to fire myself up for it.
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    There was all kinds of fraying on the homefront and all over the
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    place because I was about working, building a church, doing
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    stuff was important stuff and without any sense of distraction
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    or play, life became incredibly painful.
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    If you are all play, all being off, not really doing anything
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    that is productive.
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    If that's all -- That's another extreme thing.
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    If you're in the upper left.
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    If you're all the way up there, your life becomes pointless.
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    What is the point to your life?
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    This is, by the way, why these things are very clear, when you
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    retire and your goal is just to not have purpose, it's to golf
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    or watch Price is Right or whatever it is.
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    When you do that, statistics are very clear, you die sooner
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    because we all need to point to our life.
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    And so we're only playing, we're only detaching, we're only
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    watching TV, we're only reading novels, we're not going to have
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    something, it's going to be pointless.
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    If you have no play in your life and you have no purpose in your
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    life, you have a pitiful life.
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    It is pitiful. Nothing
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    is good going on in your life at all.
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    Where I want to get more of us to, it's where I am right now, I
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    have been for a while.
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    I want to get more and more people to, in fact, we're going to
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    do a journey in this fall.
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    A journey is something we haven't done for a year and a half and
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    we're going to do on this fall.
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    It is a -- it is a full on creative press to try to bring an
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    area of spiritual growth to our lives.
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    We're going to do it this fall.
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    So we will shut things down around Crossroads and we have the
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    best services we possibly can that coincide with groups that we
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    all get in and awesome stuff we can do at home if we want.
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    And it's going to be around this upper right progress,
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    quadrants.
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    It's going to be around this entire matrix actually having
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    purpose in play.
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    It's going to be getting to a place where you prosper.
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    Where you prosper.
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    When you have a high degree of play and when you have purpose,
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    your life, there is a prosperity that comes to you.
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    Now, I hate to use that word almost because unfortunately that
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    word prosperity has been hijacked by the televangelists.
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    And that word is only used by some pastors in relationships who
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    you should give, you should give more so God prospers you.
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    And to be clear, I'm a big fan of giving.
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    The closer I get to Jesus, the more I want to be like Him.
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    He gave His life.
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    So that's a great, great message.
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    But that is such a fine smidgen of what prosperity is worth.
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    Thirty one hundred times in the Bible the word prosperity is
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    used.
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    Over thirty one hundred.
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    Let me say it, over thirty one hundred times in the Bible the
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    word prosperity is used.
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    Here's one of the early ones.
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    Deuteronomy 22:9:
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    You may prosper.
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    You may succeed and all you do.
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    Having prosperity, it's being in a land that is lush, it's being
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    in land where there is -- there's purpose.
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    It's being in a land where you don't feel impinge upon and
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    squashed on.
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    It's like there's wide open spaces.
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    You're just -- you're just -- you're just living large, enjoying
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    and cruising through life.
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    And this is why God talks about this word, there's all kind of
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    angles to this word.
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    Over thirty one hundred times.
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    The Book of Jeremiah 44:17, it says:
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    Man, it's an awesome thing when you have plenty of food.
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    In fact, when all your needs are met and a heck of a lot of your
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    wants are met.
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    That is amazing.
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    One more, Psalm 1:3, it says this: He -- Who is he?
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    He is somebody who is being blessed by God, who is close by
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    God.
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    Now, there's a lot of going on here.
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    We imagine or you can see this, there's a body of water here
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    that's going by here.
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    And you've got this tree that's growing.
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    And whenever a tree is growing and its roots are going into the
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    ground, it's going into ground that's right beside the water
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    table and it's an incredibly moist ground.
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    It's luscious, moist ground.
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    Some of us really don't like that word moist, I know.
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    Do you not like the word? Who
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    doesn't like the word moist?
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    Just raise your hand.
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    I will not say moist anymore.
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    So, it's this land where all the vitamins and nutrients are in
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    there and the roots are growing.
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    And when this happens, this tree starts blossoming, growing.
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    It's a figure for what our life should be like, we should be
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    planted beside God, where we're feeling His presence and where
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    the our hearts going deeper and we're getting more and more
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    grounded in character and in His truth.
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    And while this happens, it says: Fruit comes out.
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    Now, I think it's interesting that it's fruit.
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    It doesn't say vegetables.
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    It says fruit.
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    I am pro vegans.
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    I am pro vegetarianism.
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    I'm not one because animals taste too good.
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    They just do.
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    But I am pro it because every day, I have a lot of salads and I
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    just I --every time I'm like, "I think I could become a
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    vegetarian. I really could."
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    It's wonderful.
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    But like I said that I like the taste of animals too much.
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    But here is here is the thing that's interesting about this
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    And people are very specific when you want to really, really be
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    healthy and you want to get vegan, they're more specific saying
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    it needs be a plant-based diet, plant based.
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    What are they saying by that?
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    Well, it's basically vegetable based, plant based.
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    Fruit is God's dessert.
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    Fruit is God's way to play with our taste buds.
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    Fruit is God's way to give us strawberries and blackberries and
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    explode.
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    If all God was concerned about was the purpose, the purpose of
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    you having fuel and energy to do the stuff that you need to do,
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    then there wouldn't be any need for fruit because desert.
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    If you really want to be healthy and you want to not eat
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    animals, you need to do broccoli and spinach and all that.
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    And I like all those things.
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    But it's interesting, this verse says fruit.
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    So when we prosper. there
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    is an advance in our life.
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    We feel like we're advancing.
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    We feel like we're getting things done.
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    We can see points on the scoreboard.
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    The metrics are looking good.
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    There are things that we can measure.
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    And we're feeling pleasure and we're playing and our tastebuds
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    are dancing just because God is good and because we are human
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    beings, we aren't human doings.
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    If all we're doing is that stuff, we're gonna hurt ourself.
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    So my request for you is this summer, the rest of the
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    summer, take care yourself.
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    Don't leave vacation days on the table.
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    Take care of yourself.
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    Know what it is you need to accomplish every week.
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    As we get closer to this fall we're going to amp this up because
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    we want the best view it's gonna be called the Play and Purpose
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    Journey and it's going to be really effective.
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    Man, it's good to be with you, my name's Lena Schuler.
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    I'm the Crossroads Anywhere Community Pastor.
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    And just last week, we were out visiting our community in
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    Newport Beach, California.
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    One of the people in that community who's part of the watch
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    party that happens there is my friend Meghan.
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    And Meghan's got a pretty sweet story.
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    And she actually might be the most joyful person that I know.
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    So, why don't we check out what Meghan has to say.
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    Hi, I'm Meghan, and I'm out here in Orange County, California.
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    [ cheers and applause ]
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    We gather friends from Cincinnati and friends who are locals to
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    meet and do life together.
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    I'm from Cincinnati originally and actually met Jesus while
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    I was a college student at the University of Cincinnati through
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    Crossroads.
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    When I was a college student, this is a great way to invite your
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    friends to church if you ever need one.
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    I had some friends who said, "Come over for a girls wine night.
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    We're having wine at our house in our living room.".
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    Great way to bait and switch your friends into a Bible study,
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    which is what I walked into in my friend's living room.
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    I met Jesus there.
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    I got baptized in a bar.
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    It was awesome.
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    And now I live in Orange County, California, and do life with
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    some awesome people out here.
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    Just this last weekend, I had an opportunity to talk about what
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    life is like being in community when I had a friend come visit
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    California and say, "How did you make so many friends after
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    college? Nobody makes friends after college that easily.
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    And that's super hard to do.
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    What is your secret?".
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    And I said, "The Crossroads Anywhere map.
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    You obviously just go to church and you make friends at church.
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    Like what does other -- what does any 23 year old do?
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    That's super normal.
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    And encouraged her to go seek that out because I have found the
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    most amazing community out here and get to encourage her on
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    towards her faith and getting to seek that out for herself
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    because that is where joy comes from, is from friends and
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    having community like this.
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    When I was in college and met Jesus, it was not easy at first.
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    It was super crazy to be in a world filled with people who were
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    always wanting to go out.
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    And I used to want to do that and I still did.
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    But I didn't want to at the same time, because I really wanted
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    to live the life that God had for me and walk away from some of
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    those things as hard as it was.
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    So when I met Jesus, I was living with my best friend at the
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    time, literally sharing a room.
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    And my friends, my roommates, people I was in class with would
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    say things like, "Why aren't you fun anymore?
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    Like what happened to you?
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    Why don't you do the things you used to do?
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    And I actually got to say all the time, "Well, I go to this
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    awesome church, you should come with me.
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    I want you to have your life changed.
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    And I want you to experience the joy that I've experienced in
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    that community and knowing life with God.
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    So please come with me, because that's the best gift you can
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    give a friend is to invite them to know the God who made them
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    and who loves them.
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    So at the end of college, right after graduation, I actually got
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    to baptize my best friend, who I was living with at the time.
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    And there is no greater joy in the entire world than getting to
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    do that.
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    We're on a Go Trip together and it was the coolest thing.
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    And she gets to live in that same joy and we get to share
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    stories of what God is doing in our life all the time now,
  • 00:27:05
    which is so incredible.
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    Now, in the workplace, I just recently had something happen in
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    my professional life, which most people think has nothing to do
  • 00:27:16
    with your church life or with God, but really it does.
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    I've learned a lot about money.
  • 00:27:21
    I've learned a lot about how to be a hard worker.
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    I've learned a lot about how to let my -- do the things I say
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    I'm going to do and how to be good on my word and really be a
  • 00:27:30
    great employee because of the things I've learned in church.
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    I was in my desk recently and had the funniest, coolest thing
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    happen.
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    I found out I was getting a tax return and I live in California.
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    So, if you don't know that, that means no one gets a tax return.
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    It means that you don't get a tax return.
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    It's not a thing that happens.
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    But because I was tithing and just giving the way that I learned
  • 00:27:54
    to handle my money.
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    My co-workers asked me, "Well, how the heck did you get a tax
  • 00:27:59
    return? You know, what do you do?".
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    And I got to talk to them about giving and why I give.
  • 00:28:04
    And that's -- that was not a big deal for me.
  • 00:28:08
    So recently in a staff meeting, I had a co-worker say to me,
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    "You know, I've really been thinking differently about how I
  • 00:28:15
    want to spend my money and how I want to be generous because of
  • 00:28:18
    what you said.
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    And because of what that inspired in me."
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    So that was a really -- I mean, that brought me so much joy to
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    be able to experience someone else taking that on for themself
  • 00:28:31
    and hopefully getting to now be generous as well.
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    So in all of these different stages of life, or whether it's
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    someone from the past reaching out, saying, "Hey, I've noticed
  • 00:28:44
    your joy on social media.
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    I'm going through a really hard time and you just are full of
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    joy and you have great friends.
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    And that's not really common in the world we live in today.
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    What's what's the secret?".
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    Well, the secret is Jesus.
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    The secret is you go to church and you make good friends and you
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    live in community with other people and you get to do fun
  • 00:29:08
    things together and you get together in homes like this with
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    amazingly hospitable people.
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    And you get to do that because of following Jesus.
  • 00:29:18
    So in any different setting in life, in any different scenario,
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    there is so much joy in sharing Jesus with friends and in
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    inviting them with you to experience the life that you have
  • 00:29:31
    because of your life with Jesus.
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    And it's brought so much joy to my life, and it will bring so
  • 00:29:38
    much joy to your life as well.
  • 00:29:41
    And if you're on the Crossroads Anywhere map and are looking for
  • 00:29:44
    somewhere to go on vacation or take your group, your living
  • 00:29:49
    room full of people on a domestic go trip, come join us out
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    here in California.
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    It's amazing.
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    And this is the best place in the world to do church and do life
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    So... [ cheers and applause ]
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    I couldn't even count the number of times that I've been sitting
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    around a table or someone's living room and the conversation
  • 00:30:11
    has come up, "What am I doing with my life?
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    What's my purpose? Is
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    what I'm doing meaningful, does it matter?"
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    I can think specifically of one dinner I had, it was shortly
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    after I graduated college and my very best friends came over
  • 00:30:28
    for dinner in my apartment.
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    We were sitting around the table in the kitchen and we're just
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    talking about how life is going.
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    And most of my friends, all of my friends took 8 to 5, 8 to 6, 9
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    I don't know, corporate jobs, OK?
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    And so we're sitting around this table and I was the only one in
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    my friend group that didn't go work at a big company after
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    college.
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    And I remember sitting there and we're just talking about how
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    work's going, how life's going.
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    And one person after another around that table at some point had
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    a bit of an emotional breakdown.
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    And the conversation went a little something like this.
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    "I just don't know what I'm supposed to be doing."
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    "I don't know if I'm even passionate about this job.".
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    I don't know if I have any purpose at 10:00 a.m.
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    on a Tuesday or 4:00 p.m.
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    on a Friday."
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    And person after person had the same feelings, the same
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    experiences.
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    And I was sitting there and for the maybe the first time, I
  • 00:31:38
    wasn't the one crying around the table.
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    Usually I'm, I can be fairly emotional.
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    And I wasn't for myself in that moment, but my heart broke for
  • 00:31:48
    my friends who just were feeling so lost and purposeless and
  • 00:31:54
    like they didn't have meaning.
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    And I can honestly say I don't -- I don't feel like that right
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    I didn't feel like that then either.
  • 00:32:01
    I felt this sense of purpose and meaning.
  • 00:32:04
    And it's not because I work at a church.
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    It actually has nothing to do with the fact that I work at a
  • 00:32:11
    church.
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    And so there's this whole idea of a meaningful life.
  • 00:32:15
    Like, how do we get it?
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    Is it even possible?
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    Is it a myth?
  • 00:32:19
    Is it magic?
  • 00:32:20
    Is it math?
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    It's really simple, actually.
  • 00:32:24
    It's just going deeper into your relationship with God and
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    inviting other people into it with you.
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    It's inviting other people to experience whatever it is that
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    you're experiencing.
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    And whether that means that you believe in God this much, you're
  • 00:32:40
    not even sure yet really if He's real.
  • 00:32:44
    Or if you and God are tight and you've been in this powerful,
  • 00:32:48
    amazing relationship with God for the last 20 years.
  • 00:32:51
    Wherever you are on that spectrum, God wants to do something in
  • 00:32:55
    He is doing something in you right now.
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    And if you choose to invite other people into it and share it
  • 00:33:03
    with the people that you're around day in and day out, the
  • 00:33:05
    people that mean the most to you, your life is going to have
  • 00:33:08
    meaning, it's gonna be purposeful, it's going to matter.
  • 00:33:12
    I really, really, truly believe that.
  • 00:33:13
    And I believe that because I've experienced it.
  • 00:33:16
    And again, not because I work at a church.
  • 00:33:20
    It actually has nothing to do with my job.
  • 00:33:23
    It's all of the time and all of the opportunities outside of my
  • 00:33:28
    Monday through Friday, 8:00 to 6:00 job.
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    I am the person that loves sharing the new things that I
  • 00:33:37
    experience.
  • 00:33:38
    I love it.
  • 00:33:39
    So if I see a great movie, you're gonna hear about it.
  • 00:33:42
    If you're looking for a date night and you live in the
  • 00:33:44
    Cincinnati area, let me plan in it for you, because I want you
  • 00:33:48
    to experience the best restaurants and the best things that
  • 00:33:52
    I've experienced.
  • 00:33:53
    Shout out to Sotto, Nada, and Boca.
  • 00:33:55
    David Falk, I hope I get a gift card out of this.
  • 00:33:58
    Best restaurants you'll ever go to in Cincinnati.
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    Anyways, if I get a great deal on shoes, I'm gonna tell you when
  • 00:34:05
    you compliment my shoes, I'm gonna tell you how much they cost
  • 00:34:07
    because you better believe that they were on sale.
  • 00:34:09
    And I want you to get the good deal and I want you to get to
  • 00:34:12
    celebrate the good thing with me.
  • 00:34:14
    That's just part of who I am and how I'm wired.
  • 00:34:17
    And here's the thing with your relationship with God, I can
  • 00:34:20
    remember sitting standing in my kitchen in college, actually.
  • 00:34:24
    And one of my roommates, I wasn't really sure where she was in
  • 00:34:27
    her faith.
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    I wasn't really sure kind of what she believed at all about God.
  • 00:34:32
    And I just flat out asked her one time.
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    She was getting something out of the freezer and she said to
  • 00:34:37
    me,.
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    Well, yeah, I believe in God.
  • 00:34:43
    But it's it's just kind of between me and God.
  • 00:34:46
    It's a thing that I actually think is really personal.
  • 00:34:50
    And then she went back to the freezer and did the thing that she
  • 00:34:52
    was doing.
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    I remember thinking.
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    Between you and God.
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    Is that right?
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    Is it just between you and God?
  • 00:35:03
    And now I believe, no.
  • 00:35:06
    Whatever you're experiencing with God, whatever your
  • 00:35:08
    relationship or lack there of with Him is, it's not just
  • 00:35:13
    between you and God.
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    It's between you, God, and everybody that you meet, everybody
  • 00:35:17
    that you touch, everybody that you do life with.
  • 00:35:20
    It is not a thing between you and God.
  • 00:35:23
    It's a thing between you, God and all of your friends and your
  • 00:35:26
    family and your roommates.
  • 00:35:27
    When God's doing something in you and you're experiencing Him in
  • 00:35:32
    new and fresh ways.
  • 00:35:34
    So as a kid growing up in church, you know, there were those few
  • 00:35:38
    Bible songs, those few church songs that we all kind of learned
  • 00:35:42
    in Sunday school or Kids' Club, whatever you were a part of as
  • 00:35:47
    You know the songs like the B-I-B-L-E, yes, that's the book for
  • 00:35:51
    me. I stand alone on the word of God, the B-I-B-L-E.
  • 00:35:56
    Do you know that one?
  • 00:35:57
    If you didn't, you should learn it because it'll help you spell
  • 00:35:59
    the Bible.
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    But there were others too.
  • 00:36:02
    One of them was This Little Light of Mine.
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    Do you guys remember that one?
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    It went: This little light of mine, I'm gonna let it shine.
  • 00:36:11
    This little light of mine, I'm gonna let it shine.
  • 00:36:15
    It goes on and on and it says, hide it under a bushel.
  • 00:36:19
    No, I'm gonna let it shine.
  • 00:36:21
    Don't let Satan it out (poof) it out.
  • 00:36:23
    I'm gonna let it shine.
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    And it goes on to just talk about how we've got this little
  • 00:36:28
    light and we should let it shine.
  • 00:36:31
    Well, that actually comes directly from the Bible.
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    We just made a kid's song out of it that's kind of cheesy, but I
  • 00:36:39
    remember it 28 years later.
  • 00:36:42
    And this is where it comes from, it comes from the book of
  • 00:36:44
    Matthew, in Chapter 5.
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    And Jesus, man, Jesus had a meaningful life.
  • 00:36:49
    Jesus had a life that mattered.
  • 00:36:50
    I mean, we're here in 2019, still referencing him, talking about
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    I'm actually modeling my life after His, trying to be like Him.
  • 00:37:00
    I'd say his life was pretty meaningful.
  • 00:37:03
    And so He gives us some, like, instruction on how to live.
  • 00:37:08
    And he's doing this to a whole crowd of people on a mountain in
  • 00:37:10
    Matthew 5.
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    And this is what he says:.
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    Jesus was living such a meaningful life that crowds of people
  • 00:37:42
    were following Him and just like sitting there listening,
  • 00:37:46
    wanting to listen to what He had to say.
  • 00:37:47
    And this is one of the things that He says to them.
  • 00:37:50
    And we hear Jesus referred to as the light of the world, but
  • 00:37:54
    right here you know what He's saying?
  • 00:37:56
    He says, "You are the light of the world."
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    You.
  • 00:38:01
    That means if Jesus is doing something in you, then you are the
  • 00:38:05
    light of the world.
  • 00:38:06
    And what He's doing in you is going to light up your house, your
  • 00:38:10
    family, all of your friends.
  • 00:38:13
    And so if God is doing something in you, you can't hide it under
  • 00:38:16
    a bushel.
  • 00:38:17
    You can't hide it under a basket.
  • 00:38:19
    It should be on a lamp stand lighting up your whole home,
  • 00:38:22
    lighting up all of your friendships, lighting up your
  • 00:38:25
    workplace.
  • 00:38:26
    And I found that when I let my light shine, when I let what
  • 00:38:32
    Jesus is doing in me out for other people to see and other
  • 00:38:36
    people to experience.
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    Oh, my gosh, the amount of meaning and purpose that is brought
  • 00:38:43
    to my life is unbelievable.
  • 00:38:45
    And so I just want to share with you some of the things that I
  • 00:38:49
    do, some of the things that I've been practicing and trying to
  • 00:38:54
    get better at to let my light shine.
  • 00:38:56
    Some of the things I've been practicing trying to get better at,
  • 00:38:58
    to invite people into experience God with me and
  • 00:39:05
    it's been giving me purpose.
  • 00:39:06
    And I hope that it might give you some purpose, too.
  • 00:39:09
    So here's the first thing.
  • 00:39:11
    I regularly choose to pray.
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    Now there's all kinds of ways we can pray, all kinds of things
  • 00:39:17
    we can pray about.
  • 00:39:18
    But specifically, I pray for my friends who I want to experience
  • 00:39:23
    God.
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    I pray for them by name.
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    I pray for them regularly in a regular rhythm.
  • 00:39:30
    And so one of the things that we started doing as little kids in
  • 00:39:34
    my house growing up was we had a paste list.
  • 00:39:39
    This was a list of names that went on our bathroom mirror that
  • 00:39:42
    every time we pulled out our toothpaste and brush our teeth
  • 00:39:46
    twice a day for 60 seconds apiece, as the dentist says, we'd
  • 00:39:50
    stand there brushing our teeth.
  • 00:39:52
    Brush our teeth.
  • 00:39:53
    And, you know, you're kind of standing there looking at yourself
  • 00:39:54
    in the mirror.
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    Maybe you're like thinking about your day.
  • 00:39:57
    And instead, what you could do is you actually could look at
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    that list of names on your bathroom mirror and for 60 seconds,
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    twice a day while you brush your teeth, you can pray for your
  • 00:40:07
    friends and your family by name who you want to experience
  • 00:40:11
    Jesus
  • 00:40:12
    I do this right now.
  • 00:40:13
    We just moved into a brand new house and I just wrote the names
  • 00:40:16
    on my mirror yesterday.
  • 00:40:18
    Here's a picture of the names.
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    Hopefully you can't actually really read them because if one of
  • 00:40:24
    you is here and watches this it might -- it's fine.
  • 00:40:28
    And so these are the names of people that I love dearly, that I
  • 00:40:32
    want to experience God the way that I'm experiencing God right
  • 00:40:36
    now.
  • 00:40:37
    You know, we can work.
  • 00:40:38
    And when we work, we work.
  • 00:40:41
    And when we pray, God works.
  • 00:40:44
    And so there is an opportunity for us to pray regularly for the
  • 00:40:49
    people that we want to experience God the way that we are
  • 00:40:53
    experiencing him.
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    I Timothy 2:1-5 says:.
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    One of these people that I did this with was Meghan.
  • 00:41:22
    Meghan, The Spark Talk that you just saw was someone who I met
  • 00:41:25
    as an eager beaver freshman wearing a lanyard walking around
  • 00:41:30
    campus.
  • 00:41:31
    And she was so far from God.
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    And she wouldn't mind me telling you that because she believes
  • 00:41:37
    that to be true and she tells everybody.
  • 00:41:39
    And I put her name on the mirror in my bedroom in college.
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    And every time I curled my hair or straighten my hair or did
  • 00:41:47
    anything to my hair, I would pray for Meghan.
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    And man, three years after that first prayer, I actually got to
  • 00:41:56
    watch Meghan receive Jesus.
  • 00:41:58
    I got to be part of that.
  • 00:41:59
    I got to baptize her.
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    And now Meghan is sharing her faith.
  • 00:42:03
    Meghan is sharing what she's experiencing with God with all
  • 00:42:07
    kinds of other people all the way across the country.
  • 00:42:10
    And it's beautiful.
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    And. oh, my is that fulfilling and does that bring meaning to my
  • 00:42:17
    life.
  • 00:42:18
    Now, here's the second thing that I do is I actually use my
  • 00:42:25
    words.
  • 00:42:26
    I talk to the people that I want to experience God and I share
  • 00:42:31
    with them what He's doing in me, what he's doing around me.
  • 00:42:36
    And I want them to know, I want them to hear my story.
  • 00:42:39
    And this doesn't mean that, like, I have this five minute deal,
  • 00:42:43
    this spiel that I tell people from start to finish tied up with
  • 00:42:46
    a bow of how God changed my life and everything's amazing.
  • 00:42:49
    No, not at all.
  • 00:42:51
    It means when someone asks me the question, "Hey, what's new?"
  • 00:42:54
    I intentionally think about what's something I could share that
  • 00:43:00
    might pique their interest in what I'm experiencing at the
  • 00:43:04
    or might pique their interest in what I'm experiencing with God.
  • 00:43:09
    And so I intentionally have to think about how am I going to use
  • 00:43:13
    my words to share with other people what God's doing?
  • 00:43:18
    One of these times -- I have a friend who a few years ago,
  • 00:43:22
    really unexpectedly lost her mom of cancer.
  • 00:43:29
    And so when I say unexpectedly, I mean, none of us expect to
  • 00:43:32
    lose a parent at 20 something, right?
  • 00:43:36
    Before we get married, before we have kids, before we hit all
  • 00:43:39
    these major milestones.
  • 00:43:41
    And so we were actually at one of the local bars together, the
  • 00:43:47
    big group of friends.
  • 00:43:48
    And it was the day that her mom had, passed away.
  • 00:43:51
    And so she came in just emotional and really not well.
  • 00:43:57
    And I debated, I was like, should I? Should
  • 00:44:00
    I say something, should I not say something? Like
  • 00:44:03
    what's helpful in this moment?
  • 00:44:05
    And I felt like, man, I've really experienced the comfort of
  • 00:44:10
    God.
  • 00:44:11
    I've experienced the peace that surpasses all understanding.
  • 00:44:14
    I've experienced hope that comes after death, maybe way, way
  • 00:44:19
    after death.
  • 00:44:21
    And I wanted that for her.
  • 00:44:23
    And I didn't want to keep that a secret.
  • 00:44:25
    I didn't -- I didn't want to just sit there and have a beer
  • 00:44:29
    with her and pretend like nothing happened.
  • 00:44:30
    And so I just asked her, I said, "Hey, you know, one of the
  • 00:44:35
    things that's been really helpful for me is just prayer.
  • 00:44:38
    Like when I talk to God, I actually feel something different.
  • 00:44:42
    And I know that this is really crappy and this is really hard.
  • 00:44:46
    I would love to just pray for you to be able to feel comfort in
  • 00:44:51
    the midst of this if you're OK with that.".
  • 00:44:54
    And of course, she's through tears like nods her head.
  • 00:44:57
    And so I get to pray for my friend who's experiencing something
  • 00:45:00
    terrible.
  • 00:45:01
    But I had to use my words.
  • 00:45:03
    I had to actually go outside of my comfort zone and say, "Hey, I
  • 00:45:07
    believe in this thing and I've experienced this with God.
  • 00:45:11
    I'd like to share it with you.".
  • 00:45:14
    Now, I don't know if her life is totally different now.
  • 00:45:17
    I don't know if she has this major deep relationship with God
  • 00:45:20
    right now.
  • 00:45:21
    But what I do know is that in that moment, I believe I did what
  • 00:45:25
    God wanted me to do.
  • 00:45:27
    I shared Him.
  • 00:45:28
    I shared what I was experiencing, what I have experienced
  • 00:45:32
    And so -- and maybe you've been healed.
  • 00:45:35
    Maybe you've experienced a miracle.
  • 00:45:36
    Maybe you're in the midst of a miracle.
  • 00:45:38
    Maybe God's brought you comfort that doesn't make sense or peace
  • 00:45:43
    that surpasses all understanding.
  • 00:45:45
    Or maybe He's pulled these puzzle pieces together in your life
  • 00:45:48
    that shouldn't have come together.
  • 00:45:49
    But they did come together.
  • 00:45:51
    And you've got friends who are experiencing something hard or
  • 00:45:55
    something new or who are longing for what you have.
  • 00:46:00
    You can use your words to share with other people what God's
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    done in you, what He's doing in you, what you've seen, felt,
  • 00:46:08
    experienced.
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    And you can share that and hopefully pique some interest for
  • 00:46:14
    your friends to want that.
  • 00:46:16
    It then says:
  • 00:46:39
    So at the time Jesus was walking around with people, He was
  • 00:46:42
    saying, "Yeah, pray for people and tell people when I'm doing
  • 00:46:47
    something.
  • 00:46:48
    Tell them, I want them to be amazed.
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    I want God to get the glory for what he's doing through prayer
  • 00:46:56
    and through the work of sharing."
  • 00:47:00
    And lastly, one of the other things that I do is I choose to
  • 00:47:04
    invite.
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    I choose to go one more step beyond just sharing and actually
  • 00:47:10
    invite people to experience God with me.
  • 00:47:14
    So this is really simple, actually.
  • 00:47:16
    Three words to remember.
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    If you're trying to figure out like, how do I invite this
  • 00:47:20
    person?
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    If you can remember: you, I, and so.
  • 00:47:29
    It's a really simple way to invite.
  • 00:47:30
    So you start with a, "Hey. You
  • 00:47:34
    right now, you just had a brand new baby.
  • 00:47:36
    How exciting.
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    Congratulations.
  • 00:47:39
    I just had a baby a year ago, and when I had my baby, I freaked
  • 00:47:44
    I was like, "I don't know how to be a parent.
  • 00:47:47
    No one trains you in how to be a parent.
  • 00:47:49
    But at Crossroads, we've got this great thing called Kids' Club
  • 00:47:53
    that I would love for you to experience with me.
  • 00:47:56
    So do you want to come with me sometime?
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    Do you live near a Crossroads site?".
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    That might be a really easy way for you to invite your friends.
  • 00:48:04
    Or maybe it's something like what happened with my friend a few
  • 00:48:09
    And you say, "Man, you are going through something really tough
  • 00:48:14
    that I hope nobody else has to go through because it's really
  • 00:48:19
    hard to lose your mom.
  • 00:48:21
    I've not experienced that.
  • 00:48:23
    I don't know what that's like, but I almost lost my mom once.
  • 00:48:29
    She had a stroke and we thought that she wasn't gonna make it.
  • 00:48:33
    And in the midst of that feeling I had to lean on God and I had
  • 00:48:39
    people that I could call to pray for me that I've met through
  • 00:48:42
    the church.
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    So would you maybe want to come and watch church with me in my
  • 00:48:48
    living room with some of my friends who experience church that
  • 00:48:53
    way and who would be great people to pray for you when you
  • 00:48:56
    experience something crappy?".
  • 00:48:59
    You, I, So; really simple.
  • 00:49:02
    And if you've got friends who are maybe entering into a brand
  • 00:49:04
    new life stage: new baby, new home, new marriage, or
  • 00:49:08
    ones who are going through crisis: divorce, loss of someone
  • 00:49:12
    they love.
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    Those people. they're
  • 00:49:16
    longing to experience comfort and peace and community, the
  • 00:49:21
    things that maybe you've experienced in the midst of the
  • 00:49:24
    church.
  • 00:49:25
    Those are great people to invite in to experience what you're
  • 00:49:30
    experiencing, whether it's through showing up to a church
  • 00:49:33
    building or watching something online or listening to a
  • 00:49:36
    podcast.
  • 00:49:38
    We've gotta pray for our friends.
  • 00:49:39
    We've got to share with them what God is doing in us.
  • 00:49:41
    And we have to invite them into something.
  • 00:49:44
    Invite them into community with us.
  • 00:49:49
    1 Corinthians 9 says:.
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    I want you to do everything to share the good news and to share
  • 00:50:15
    in its blessings.
  • 00:50:18
    God has uniquely made you with specific gifts and talents and
  • 00:50:22
    passions and desires.
  • 00:50:24
    And He's made you to have a meaningful, purposeful life that
  • 00:50:30
    matters.
  • 00:50:31
    I got to meet and get to know a family who, man, they have a
  • 00:50:36
    meaningful life right now, their life is mattering.
  • 00:50:39
    They're impacting all kinds of other families and individuals
  • 00:50:43
    who live in the Los Angeles area.
  • 00:50:46
    And they've got a pretty cool story.
  • 00:50:48
    I'd love for you to just meet them and see what God's doing in
  • 00:50:52
    their lives and in their home.
  • 00:50:54
    Let's meet the Byerlys.
  • 00:50:58
    Hi, I'm Stephanie Byerly.
  • 00:51:01
    And I'm Robert Byerly and we live in Newport Beach, California.
  • 00:51:05
    I think we started going to Crossroads before we moved to
  • 00:51:08
    Cincinnati in 2003.
  • 00:51:09
    The first journey that we were part of was the Consume Journey.
  • 00:51:13
    And I think for us, that was the first time that it's ever
  • 00:51:16
    really been explained to us that everything we own is God's.
  • 00:51:23
    And that was really impactful for Robert and I because of the
  • 00:51:28
    way it changed our thinking.
  • 00:51:29
    And we also just grew a lot.
  • 00:51:31
    We grew in community during that time.
  • 00:51:34
    So super impactful for us.
  • 00:51:36
    So we moved to California the first time in 2012.
  • 00:51:39
    I had an opportunity with my job and we came out and had the
  • 00:51:42
    choice to live in a couple different places.
  • 00:51:45
    And we landed on Orange County.
  • 00:51:46
    So we had met some families through school.
  • 00:51:50
    Stephanie had hosted a Labor Day back to school kind of hangout
  • 00:51:54
    brunch at her house.
  • 00:51:55
    Everyone shows up at 11 o'clock.
  • 00:51:56
    And people ended up just hanging out until early afternoon, 4:00
  • 00:52:00
    or 5:00.
  • 00:52:01
    It was really the first group of people that we've connected to
  • 00:52:04
    with that we really liked.
  • 00:52:05
    So Stephanie had suggested,"Hey, why don't we do a journey deal
  • 00:52:10
    together with all of you?".
  • 00:52:11
    And they're like, "What's a journey?".
  • 00:52:12
    And when we went on to explain, it was a small group deal and
  • 00:52:15
    we just created a place where people can hang out.
  • 00:52:17
    We say, bring your kids, come late, which is --
  • 00:52:21
    Always happens in California.
  • 00:52:24
    Our goal was really just to build friendship and relationships
  • 00:52:27
    with other people.
  • 00:52:28
    It wasn't to keep some kind of timely schedule.
  • 00:52:31
    And that's how it started.
  • 00:52:32
    So if it weren't for the idea of the Journey group, if it
  • 00:52:35
    weren't for the idea of inviting people into your homes, we
  • 00:52:38
    wouldn't have had invited them over and made that connection
  • 00:52:41
    with them.
  • 00:52:43
    I'm Meghan, and in part at the Crossroads Anywhere Community
  • 00:52:46
    here in Newport Beach, California.
  • 00:52:48
    So when I finished college, I accepted a job in Orange County,
  • 00:52:52
    California, after graduating from the University of Cincinnati.
  • 00:52:56
    Literally, besides my job, I had no idea where I was going to
  • 00:52:59
    live or really what life was going to look like at all.
  • 00:53:03
    I was super scared to move.
  • 00:53:05
    Then at the same time, when I got to California, I
  • 00:53:09
    roadtripped out here with two friends from Crossroads,
  • 00:53:10
    actually.
  • 00:53:11
    And when I got to California sent them on a plane home and
  • 00:53:15
    literally had nowhere to move into.
  • 00:53:19
    I found a place to live, thankfully.
  • 00:53:20
    Following that, the goal was to find community.
  • 00:53:24
    So I had put myself on the Crossroads Anywhere map.
  • 00:53:28
    I put my pin on my office, actually, because I didn't know where
  • 00:53:30
    I was going to be living yet before I moved out here.
  • 00:53:33
    And then once I moved out here, I put my pin on my home
  • 00:53:36
    location.
  • 00:53:37
    They had seen me on the map and we actually met in person at a
  • 00:53:42
    Young Life dinner.
  • 00:53:44
    They said, "Oh, we're Robert and Steph and we're from
  • 00:53:46
    Cincinnati."
  • 00:53:48
    I said, "Well, I'm from Cincinnati.
  • 00:53:50
    What are you guys doing out here?"
  • 00:53:52
    We left Cincinnati on the same day and we couldn't believe that
  • 00:53:56
    we didn't know each other in Cincinnati because we had a lot of
  • 00:53:58
    different mutual connections.
  • 00:53:59
    They invited me over for coffee.
  • 00:54:01
    They invited me over for dinner.
  • 00:54:02
    They invited me over for everything and to do every little piece
  • 00:54:05
    of life with them and with their family.
  • 00:54:09
    And we were in a mode of trying to find people that were from
  • 00:54:13
    Cincinnati or part of the Crossroads community that we're
  • 00:54:14
    living in and around Orange County.
  • 00:54:17
    So we just kind of looked, okay, who was on the map that's here?
  • 00:54:21
    I remember going online and seeing who's this Meghan Pope
  • 00:54:24
    person?
  • 00:54:25
    So I think you might have reached out or something.
  • 00:54:27
    But we just tried to get connected with her.
  • 00:54:29
    We were invited to go to this Young Life event on its their
  • 00:54:32
    annual fundraiser.
  • 00:54:34
    So a good friend of ours, a guy named Dan Chambers said, "You
  • 00:54:36
    know, I was at an event and there's a lady named Meghan that's
  • 00:54:40
    from Cincinnati, and she's younger.
  • 00:54:43
    And she went to went to a place called Crossroads or whatever.
  • 00:54:47
    "Wait a minute.
  • 00:54:48
    Is that the same person that was on the map that Dan knew?"
  • 00:54:52
    I think we instantly had the excitement for Crossroads.
  • 00:54:57
    I think that instantly connected us.
  • 00:54:59
    We want to protect her and take care of her and check in on
  • 00:55:03
    her.
  • 00:55:04
    And, yes, you know, she's like family to us really.
  • 00:55:07
    Yes.
  • 00:55:08
    The first six months that I was out here and really didn't have
  • 00:55:10
    a lot of stability yet, my car got hit.
  • 00:55:14
    Without missing a beat, Steph just tossed me her keys.
  • 00:55:17
    And I drove her car around to work for two weeks until I could
  • 00:55:21
    get my stuff straightened out.
  • 00:55:24
    The first year I was out here in California, I actually couldn't
  • 00:55:27
    go home for Thanksgiving.
  • 00:55:29
    So naturally I went to the Byerly's.
  • 00:55:31
    I kind of joke with my friends who were my peers, "Like my
  • 00:55:34
    California mom and dad.
  • 00:55:36
    I'm going to hang out my California mom and dad, or I'm house
  • 00:55:38
    sitting for my California family.".
  • 00:55:40
    "Or I'm watching the dog or walking the dog from my California
  • 00:55:43
    family while they're out of town."
  • 00:55:44
    I get the example of what it looks like to be generous with your
  • 00:55:47
    money and what it looks like to have a marriage that centered
  • 00:55:49
    on Jesus and what does look like to be really faithful to your
  • 00:55:52
    career and to your family at the same time.
  • 00:55:55
    Getting to be part of someone's family, in someone's home, in
  • 00:55:57
    someone's life, it's so natural for me to get to pick up on
  • 00:56:00
    these things and get to see these things that they do.
  • 00:56:03
    We all need community.
  • 00:56:05
    I think the longer we've been married and the longer we've had
  • 00:56:08
    kids, we've just realized that you have to lean in to other
  • 00:56:11
    When we share our wounds and our weaknesses, it's the best way
  • 00:56:16
    that people can connect with us.
  • 00:56:18
    And I think a lot of times when you don't know people very well
  • 00:56:22
    and you're in a new situation, it's really intimidating to just
  • 00:56:27
    invite strangers in your home
  • 00:56:29
    and not really know what -- how they're going to receive that.
  • 00:56:33
    But I think because we were growing along the way, we just knew
  • 00:56:37
    that it was something that was so meaningful to us.
  • 00:56:40
    Everyone should have the chance to experience what I've had,
  • 00:56:43
    I've gotten to experience, which is moving somewhere new, not
  • 00:56:46
    knowing anybody, but because of my faith immediately having
  • 00:56:49
    community and having friends.
  • 00:56:52
    What I would say to somebody if they're a part of the Crossroads
  • 00:56:55
    Community and they're watching online and they're at home or
  • 00:56:58
    they're in a coffee shop and they're by themselves.
  • 00:57:01
    I would just say be invitational and ask somebody to to watch
  • 00:57:04
    Whether it's in a coffee shop or whether it's on your, you know,
  • 00:57:07
    hanging out on the couch because people want to be invited to
  • 00:57:11
    They want to be -- They want to feel a part of a community.
  • 00:57:14
    I found community through Crossroads Anywhere and I'm so
  • 00:57:17
    thankful.
  • 00:57:31
    How encouraging is that? Man,
  • 00:57:34
    I'll tell you, if you ever get to meet that family or those
  • 00:57:37
    people in person, you're going to love them even more.
  • 00:57:40
    Well, two of the things that you heard them mention in their
  • 00:57:43
    story are things that actually you could do right now.
  • 00:57:46
    You could start thinking about doing right now.
  • 00:57:49
    The first is they mentioned a Journey.
  • 00:57:51
    This all church Journey for five weeks that the whole church
  • 00:57:55
    does together where we get into groups and we get to experience
  • 00:57:59
    church on a deeper level with other people.
  • 00:58:02
    And so that's actually coming up in the fall.
  • 00:58:05
    It's the Play and Purpose Journey.
  • 00:58:07
    You can head to Crossroads.net/journey
  • 00:58:08
    to check that out, but be thinking about whether or not you
  • 00:58:13
    might want to lead a group for the very first time, host The
  • 00:58:17
    journey in your home.
  • 00:58:19
    It could be a great way for you to get connected to community
  • 00:58:21
    wherever you are.
  • 00:58:23
    Speaking of getting connected to community, the other thing they
  • 00:58:25
    mentioned was the Connect Map.
  • 00:58:27
    And so maybe you are about to move, you've just moved.
  • 00:58:30
    Maybe you've been in southeast Indiana or South Dakota for a
  • 00:58:35
    long time, but you've not actually met other people who are
  • 00:58:39
    part of the church there.
  • 00:58:40
    If you head to Crossroads.net/connect,
  • 00:58:43
    you can put yourself on the Connect Map, you can search for
  • 00:58:46
    people who are near you, groups that are happening near you, ad
  • 00:58:50
    you can connect with other people through that tool.
  • 00:58:52
    It's pretty sweet.
  • 00:58:54
    Well, if you want your life to matter, another way that you
  • 00:58:57
    could have meaning is you could invest your money in meaningful
  • 00:59:01
    things and things that matter.
  • 00:59:03
    One of the things that my husband and I invest our money in is
  • 00:59:06
    the church, because we believe that the church is the best
  • 00:59:10
    rescue plan for all of humanity.
  • 00:59:13
    We believe that God's gonna do amazing things in the church and
  • 00:59:17
    through the church.
  • 00:59:18
    We've seen it, we've experienced it, and we want others to
  • 00:59:21
    experience it, too.
  • 00:59:22
    And so we invest our money here.
  • 00:59:25
    And so if you want to become a giver, you can do that by heading
  • 00:59:27
    to Crossroads.net/give
  • 00:59:30
    and invest in something that has purpose and meaning and might
  • 00:59:34
    just make your life matter in a whole new way.
  • 00:59:37
    Next week we start a brand new series called How to Hear from
  • 00:59:39
    God.
  • 00:59:40
    And a new series is a great opportunity for you to open up your
  • 00:59:43
    home and invite other people to watch church with you, to
  • 00:59:46
    experience church with you.
  • 00:59:48
    So maybe you want to start that next week.
  • 00:59:50
    We'll see you back for week 1 of How to Hear from God.

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