No one wants to be the guy who always takes and never gives. Brian Tome looks at how you can unlock your unique gifts and talents and have a profound impact.

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    - Hey, welcome to Crossroads. I'm Sean.
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    And we believe that God created you, me,
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    and every one of us to live a life of adventure
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    and to change the world for good.
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    If that sounds good to you, then you're in the right place.
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    Now, there are countless stories of people
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    who have watched the service,
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    got connected to Crossroads and to other people,
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    and their lives have changed for the better.
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    And that's why we're so committed
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    to helping you go to the next level
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    in your relationship with God.
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    Now, all year long, we're diving into
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    different books of the Bible to unpack
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    the things that help us know God more
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    and get closer to Him.
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    Today we're exploring the book of Romans.
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    It was written by the apostle Paul
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    for the early church in Rome,
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    and there are tons of things that we can learn
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    that still apply to our lives today.
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    Let's get started.
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    - No matter if you find a parking lot or not,
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    you're going to praise Him, right?
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    No matter if you're dropping your kids off
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    at Kids' Club and rushing here and just grabbed your coffee.
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    He's worthy of our attention and our affection.
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    That's what this past Thursday night was about.
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    This place filled up with people coming in
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    and saying, "God, I believe that something
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    changes in me when I give You my attention
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    and my affection, because You're good,
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    because You're worthy."
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    And on this stage, we sing that same song,
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    louder than maybe I've ever heard it sung
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    with students and people dancing in the aisle
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    and people getting out, letting loose a little bit.
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    And we sang it over 51 people on this stage
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    that got baptized and gave their life to Jesus.
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    Across all of our sites, 188 people
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    here in our church got baptized Thursday night.
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    And here's what they were saying.
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    They were saying, "Jesus, I want to follow You.
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    Jesus, I believe You're more than a man
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    that just walked the earth, but I believe
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    You're my Savior and my King."
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    They're living out these words,
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    following in line with what Jesus said.
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    Listen to what He said.
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    Jesus said if anyone would come after Me,
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    let them deny -- let him deny himself
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    and take up his cross daily and follow me.
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    For whoever would save his life will lose it.
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    But whoever loses his life for My sake will save it.
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    188 people said, "I want to put that example
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    into action and go down under the water
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    as death to myself and be raised back to life
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    because of the surpassing greatness
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    and amazement of what Jesus does for us.
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    That there's a mystery to it, that when
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    I release control of my own life, I find it.
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    When I die to myself, my own desires,
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    my own needs, I say, 'God, you can have all of me.'
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    And He brings life to dead places."
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    That's what this song says.
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    It gives us the appropriate response that
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    at one point it says, "I give my whole life
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    and lay it down."
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    That's us saying, "I'm going to aim for You,
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    give You my attention and my affection
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    because You gave your life for mine,
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    I will give mine for you."
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    Our response to Him.
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    Lift them up Together.
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    Jesus, We praise You because You're the King.
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    And I want every part of me to be in line with that truth.
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    I believe You're more than a story.
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    I believe You're true.
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    I've seen You to be true.
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    I give my life to You because
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    I believe You're true, more than a story.
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    And because I found time and time again
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    when I surrender myself,
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    I found life greater than I ever imagined.
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    You're the high King of heaven over all.
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    I give you my voice, my attention,
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    my affection, and my heart today
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    because of who You are.
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    I pray all this in you, Jesus. Amen.
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    - This experience transformed my approach
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    to my relationship with God.
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    - My group of strangers became a family.
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    - And I have been transformed.
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    I realized that I can begin life anew.
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    - These guys are my brothers.
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    I can count on them and they can count on me.
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    - Someone offered to pray over me,
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    and I never had that happen before.
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    I'm not sure what I believe about God yet,
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    but I love the people I've met
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    and I want to keep exploring.
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    - We know that loneliness and isolation are a huge problem.
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    Earlier I said that there are countless stories
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    of people who got connected to other people at Crossroads,
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    and that's true.
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    I've met some of my best and closest friends here.
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    And one of the biggest ways to grow spiritually
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    is to do it alongside other people
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    who are also moving towards God.
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    I believe that finding the right community
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    can transform your life,
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    and that's why we have groups designed
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    to supercharge your relationship with God
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    and with other people.
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    Whether it's online or in person,
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    you can find a group for you at crossroads.net/groups.
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    Crossroads is about making an impact
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    in people's lives and around the world.
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    All the money that comes in
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    through generous givers like you and me
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    goes right back out to change lives.
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    We believe that God created the earth
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    and everything in it, including us.
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    So we use what God gives us in ways that honor Him.
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    Now, if you're new to church and Crossroads
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    and if you don't believe this right now,
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    that's totally okay.
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    But if you want to go deeper with God
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    and follow His plan for your life, then let's talk.
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    I don't even have enough time to talk about
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    all the things that Crossroads is doing
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    locally and globally, but to read more about
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    where the money goes or why we give,
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    head to Crossroads.net/give.
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    Now, today, Brian is going to be talking about Romans
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    and the importance it has for our lives.
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    - Well, good morning all of Crossroads.
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    I am excited to be with us today.
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    I'm going to talk about one of
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    the most crazy profound things in the Bible
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    that I'm glad to talk about because
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    it helps me believe it and remember it.
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    It's the grace of God.
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    Last week we talked about the truth that
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    God can't be defined in any single sentence,
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    including God is love or God is justice
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    or God is wrath or whatever it is,
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    because He's a multifaceted person.
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    I mean, you couldn't be defined
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    by a single sentence, could you?
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    If there was a story in your life,
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    someone couldn't just tell that one story
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    and they'd get a whole pure perspective
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    for who Vanessa is.
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    It's a bunch of things, right?
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    So with God, we tend to err on one aspect
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    of His personality, the personality that
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    we maybe most identify with.
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    For some of us, that's His rules
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    or it's His this or it's His that.
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    We're honing in that aspect of God's personality
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    that doesn't get talked about enough
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    in modern American churches, and that is His grace.
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    Now we talk about it with people
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    who are outside the church
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    trying to woo them into relationship with God.
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    But for many of us, we need to be
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    reacquainted with God's grace,
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    and that's what we're going to do today.
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    I'm looking forward to it.
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    Let's pray about it so maybe God touches you
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    in a way that just my words can't,
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    but maybe His very spirit, His grace,
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    does something in your heart today.
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    God, I pray that that would happen,
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    that You would do something in our lives
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    that goes beyond my sermon preparation,
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    goes beyond any of the production
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    that we've done here today.
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    That just gets personal,
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    personal between You and every person
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    sitting in a seat and whatever site
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    or whatever coffee shop we're in right now.
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    God, thank You for the privilege of talking
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    about Your truth and Your transcendency.
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    Help me to do it justice.
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    And I pray these things according to
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    the character and identity of Jesus. Amen.
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    So as we look at the book of Romans,
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    Romans was the letter that the Apostle Paul
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    gave to the church in Rome.
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    And he would give these letters,
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    like he did to the church in Ephesus,
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    which I'm going to read from first,
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    again and again and again to help
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    people understand who God was.
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    And the book of Romans, 16 chapters long,
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    22 times grace is referenced.
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    Grace is all throughout the New Testament.
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    As we looked at last week
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    all through the Old Testament as well.
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    Let me give you one section out of the book of Ephesians.
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    It says this: In Him we have redemption
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    through His blood and forgiveness of our --
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    That's not the right one. Sorry. Sorry.
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    I've got all these things underline my Bible.
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    I got the wrong one.
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    Let's do another underlined section I have in it.
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    I actually read this, believe it or not,
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    and I actually mark it up.
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    It's not just a prop.
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    All right, let's try this one.
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    It's Ephesians 2, actually, here we go.
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    Ephesians 2:5:
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    Do you believe that He's kind to you?
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    He is. He's so kind, He abounds in it.
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    He's rich and His grace is something He blesses us with.
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    Next verse.
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    If you happen to come into relationship
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    with God through Jesus,
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    you don't come to relationship with Him
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    because you figured it out,
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    because you're just a naturally spiritual person.
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    You don't come in relationship with Him
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    because you even said a sinner's prayer.
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    You don't come into relationship with Him
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    because you got baptized.
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    All those things may happen and may be important,
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    but you come into relationship with Him,
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    if you do, because of His grace.
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    We can't boast that I figured it out.
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    No, His grace comes to me first.
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    Let's keep going.
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    There's a place for works. There is.
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    I'm going to call, refer to works today as grit.
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    There's grit, the thing you've just got to do,
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    the thing you've got to
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    put your shoulder to the millstone on,
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    the thing that you've got to expend effort in and sweat.
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    And then there's grace that you don't work for,
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    that you don't do anything about.
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    There's grace and there's grit.
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    And many of us err on the grit side.
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    And we'll have messages here Crossroads
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    where it's appropriate to get into
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    the things we need to do and grit, all that stuff.
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    But grit only has a chance of taking root
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    if you've understood
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    and have received the grace of God.
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    The whole letter of Romans is basically a letter of grace.
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    And there's a guy I know who got given a letter,
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    I'm going to show it to you in a moment,
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    which is a letter of grace.
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    Joe is a guy I've known for a while,
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    and yet I didn't know him.
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    Because just like God, he's got facets
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    to his personality and background I wasn't aware of.
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    But I think we're all going to get
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    a better understanding of grace by hearing his story.
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    - I think God's calling me to give my story away
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    so that it can be used broader by Him for people.
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    I struggled in my young adulthood with some anger,
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    and I think it stemmed in large part
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    from fear of abandonment.
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    I had grown up in a house where my parents were divorced.
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    My father and I didn't have the greatest
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    of relationships and he wasn't present.
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    In my early 20s, I met and entered into a relationship.
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    She got pregnant, unexpected,
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    and a decision was made for her to have an abortion.
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    Not only did it not set well with me,
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    but I was not kind to her.
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    I'd lack patience. I would strike out verbally.
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    So I think I was just dealing with
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    some anger issues of my own,
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    some abandonment issues, a lot of things
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    that I just didn't recognize in my youth
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    that came out in very unhealthy ways
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    to the people around me.
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    That was a very difficult, difficult period
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    that has stayed with me,
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    but stayed with me in a significant way.
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    And then I decided to join the Navy
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    because I really didn't have direction.
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    I didn't know what I wanted to do.
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    And in 1990, I met the woman
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    that would become my first wife.
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    We had been living on the military base,
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    in military base housing, and for reasons
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    mostly focused on our children's education,
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    I used government credit cards that
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    I did not have authorization to use for our life
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    and our life as we were living it.
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    That ultimately resulted in me
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    seeing an NCIS agent and charges of larceny
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    and conduct unbecoming being brought against me.
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    And I was found guilty.
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    My commanding officer,
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    who was my most superior officer above me,
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    he looked at me and he said,
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    "Everything around me says
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    to kick you out of the military.
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    But I believe there's something to be redeemed in you,
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    and I'm not going to do that."
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    So I retire from the Navy in December of 2003.
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    My marriage was ending at that time.
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    And I drove from San Diego to Cincinnati.
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    When I came around the Cut in the Hill
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    I felt God say to me, "I brought you back
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    to this place because this is
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    where you're going to have wholeness."
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    Because I was a wreck.
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    It felt like I was about to have a new beginning.
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    One of the most significant things that happened
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    was in February of '05, I met my now wife, Amanda.
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    When we were married,
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    He put on her heart to have a child.
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    So we talked and prayed and decided that we would.
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    And that began in November of 2013.
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    We got to the summer of 2015
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    and she still wasn't pregnant.
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    I was angry. I got angry with God.
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    I was carrying with me this vision of a punishing God.
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    And I believed that because I didn't lend voice
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    to an abortion that happened,
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    I believed He was punishing me
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    and that He wasn't going to allow me to have a child.
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    So I spent the better part of the month of July in 2015
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    kind of shaking my fist at God and just saying,
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    "Look, I believe You are who You say you are.
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    I believe Your promises.
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    And I know that we heard You right.
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    And why do You keep doing this to me?
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    Why are You punishing me like this?
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    Why are You not letting me have
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    the thing that you promised me?"
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    I just felt Him say, "I've got work to do
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    in you before you can have the promise."
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    I kind of settled in at that time to
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    what is it that God wants me to grow
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    in relationship with Him?
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    And I think one of the things that I came to
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    was that He had forgiven me for my choices in the past.
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    He had forgiven me for my brokenness
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    and that I needed to let go of things of the past
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    that were really serving as now
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    a barrier to my relationship with Him.
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    God wasn't punishing me.
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    He wasn't keeping something from me.
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    Things were going to happen in His time, not my time.
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    Um, and then ultimately, in November of 2015,
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    we learned that Amanda was pregnant.
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    - Well, Jared, we actually --
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    We have a little gift for you. Take a moment and read it.
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    - You sons of bitches.
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    - Would you read the letter out loud?
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    - I probably don't say this often enough,
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    but it's important for you to know
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    that you are an incredible husband and father.
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    It's obvious to all who meet you
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    that God created you to be a father.
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    You father so many people that cross your paths in life,
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    and I get the awesome blessing of witnessing it
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    and partnering in it with you every day.
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    I know you're going to be revealing
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    some very heartbreaking parts of your life
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    during this video shoot.
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    You've had to endure more emotional pain
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    than any decent man should ever have to in a life.
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    God wants to use your difficult past
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    to becoming your powerful testimony.
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    Your words could possibly inspire others
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    to reconsider forthcoming bad decisions in their lives.
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    Your story might open his or her heart
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    to the God that loves them with relentless pursuit.
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    And his relentless pursuit of you
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    gives them a hope and a promise.
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    I love you, and I'm so incredibly proud
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    to be your wife and partner in life.
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    David is so blessed to have you as his daddy.
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    Let it rip all for the glory of
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    the one who created you to be the best daddy ever.
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    Love you forever, Amanda.
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    So tomorrow is her birthday and I think
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    she and I might talk about this tomorrow night.
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    - So the letter we got was the way it is
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    when the Romans got a letter from the Apostle Paul
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    and the way we are when we read something
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    in the Scriptures, God's trying to tell us something.
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    And I believe God's trying to tell you
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    that He loves you, cares for you,
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    and has grace for you
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    no matter what you've done in the past.
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    This is actually an instruction of His.
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    The Bible has instructions,
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    also known as commands in them.
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    And there's also instructions about
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    how to understand and lean to the beauty of grace.
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    You know, when we don't have instructions
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    it gets really frustrating, life does.
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    Could you imagine putting together
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    an Ikea piece of furniture without instructions?
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    In fact, I'll just say right now,
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    if there is such a place as hell,
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    which there is, it probably looks like Ikea.
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    I mean, Dante talked about different levels of hell.
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    No, it's wandering around in Ikea with
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    a bunch of particle board, that's what it is.
  • 00:35:10
    And when you go and get those things, right,
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    have you ever tried to put together.
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    It's so frustrating.
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    If you don't have the right tools that they supply,
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    which are not very helpful, you just feel so frustrated.
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    And some of us feel so frustrated with God
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    because we don't have the tools to understand the grace of God.
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    It's like I saw somebody recently,
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    they took their Ikea furniture
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    and just spelled out a word and said,
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    "This is what I need. Help."
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    I'm trying to help you.
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    If you've ever been frustrated or distracted
  • 00:35:42
    or don't understand a God,
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    you might be missing the grit aspect,
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    or most likely you're missing the grace aspect
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    that He's patient with you.
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    He has more time for you.
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    He has more resources for you.
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    He is rich in them.
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    Grace is also known as favor, unmerited favor.
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    There's all these volumes of books that help
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    you understand different New Testament words.
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    One of them is Grace, which is Charis.
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    The Theological Dictionary of the New Testament
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    multi-volume work, a tome, if you will, pun intended,
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    of all these different words and the meaning of them,
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    the background of them.
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    It's the definitive work in Greek words.
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    This Greek word Charis is seen as unmerited favor.
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    Here's here's a little quote that they quote
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    a guy by the name of Cremer, they say this:
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    Favor, benevolence, kindness.
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    This is everybody.
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    Everybody, including you if you've been
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    around the grace of God for decades.
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    The grace of God is not for people
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    who just come to know God for the first time.
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    It's for all of us all the time.
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    Let's go to Romans and take a look at our main passage today.
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    Chapter 12, verse 3. Here's what it says:
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    For by the grace given to me.
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    Again, it's given, grace is given,
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    not by the grace earned, not by the grace that I have
  • 00:37:21
    that I am entitled to, no.
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    Three big ideas for us today.
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    One is this: humility attracts favor.
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    If you want more favor from God,
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    more kindness from God, more resources from God,
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    more forgiveness from God, more opportunities from God,
  • 00:37:55
    more slack from God, this tells us
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    don't think more highly of yourself than you should.
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    Humble. When God sees humble people, he says,
  • 00:38:04
    "Hmm, I want to give more of my resources right there."
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    The Bible says that God brings down the prideful
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    and He exalts the humble.
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    How does he lift up the humble?
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    By giving more grace. Grace upon grace.
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    Now, humility doesn't mean you can't have any self-confidence.
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    That's not what humility means.
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    Someone has said before that
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    humility isn't thinking less of yourself,
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    humility is thinking of yourself less.
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    I'm thinking of other people.
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    I'm thinking of God.
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    I'm not thinking about myself.
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    When I'm thinking about myself, God goes,
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    "Oh, you're about yourself. I guess you don't need Me
  • 00:38:44
    because you're all about yourself."
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    When I think about other people, when I think about God,
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    I encourage God to give me grace.
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    It's not a right. It's not a do this and you get that.
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    Grace, you never know how God is going to give it,
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    how He's going to give it.
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    It actually says according to the measure.
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    There's different amounts of grace that comes to us
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    and different ways that grace to us.
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    But all of us can have that favor, all of us.
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    I was thinking this last week,
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    I was journaling in our Crossroads app.
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    You can always go there and and maybe increase
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    that you might get a hit of grace.
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    When I go to our app and I look at
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    a chapter of the Bible and about three times a week,
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    maybe, I'll journal something for
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    a couple paragraphs and put it out.
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    I don't go to the app or I don't have
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    my time with God in the morning because it's my time to,
  • 00:39:31
    by grit, be spiritual and read my Bible and pray.
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    Sometimes I feel that way, but when I'm on my game,
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    I do those things because I'm saying
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    maybe God will notice here's a humble person here
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    that just wants a little more grace.
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    I want to put myself in a place
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    where I can get more grace.
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    And I was reflecting on a passage in Romans
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    about how sad it is that when I talk to
  • 00:39:56
    somebody who isn't a Christian
  • 00:39:58
    who I play basketball with
  • 00:39:59
    or ride a motorcycle with or whatever,
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    I'm wooing them and talking to them about the grace of God.
  • 00:40:04
    I'm not talking about
  • 00:40:06
    the obligations that God has for them.
  • 00:40:07
    There are obligations, but it's the grace that's appropriate.
  • 00:40:10
    When I give a standard gospel presentation,
  • 00:40:14
    when I talk about the forgiveness of Jesus
  • 00:40:16
    and His grace He gave to us by going on a Cross
  • 00:40:20
    and giving us His life in exchange for our life
  • 00:40:23
    so I can be forever with God.
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    That's Grace, right?
  • 00:40:27
    I don't lead with, "What you need to do
  • 00:40:29
    is come to know Christ because then
  • 00:40:30
    you're going to get a whole new set of rules.
  • 00:40:32
    You can have whole expectations. He's all of a sudden--"
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    You don't lead with that. You lead with grace.
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    Now, the problem is, when many of us come to faith,
  • 00:40:40
    we think that grace is for others, we forget it's for us.
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    And we come to churches and we just get
  • 00:40:46
    rules all the time, obligations all the time.
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    And by the way, there are rules and obligations.
  • 00:40:51
    We'll give those kind of sermons.
  • 00:40:52
    But you've got to hear me say really, really clearly,
  • 00:40:55
    grace is not a thing once you come to know Christ.
  • 00:40:58
    Grace is a thing for all seasons when you're with Christ,
  • 00:41:02
    all, you never stop needing the grace of God.
  • 00:41:04
    And He never stops giving the grace of God.
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    Grace is for you and the problems you did today.
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    Grace is for you and the things you did yesterday.
  • 00:41:13
    And Grace is coming to you
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    and the things you haven't even worked for
  • 00:41:16
    that are going to be blessings maybe tomorrow.
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    You haven't earned it, but it's coming. It's unmerited.
  • 00:41:22
    Can anybody give me an amen in the house?
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    Because that's good news. Seriously.
  • 00:41:27
    God doesn't just give paychecks. He gives grace.
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    He doesn't just give you what you've earned.
  • 00:41:34
    That would be by grit.
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    He gives you things you haven't even thought of,
  • 00:41:38
    which is grace. It's beautiful.
  • 00:41:41
    And this favor is not only encouraged when we're humble,
  • 00:41:47
    this favor is encouraged and known when it's varied.
  • 00:41:52
    Favor is varied.
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    It comes to different people
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    at different times in different ways.
  • 00:41:59
    Let's go back to Romans, verse four:
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    The image of body, right.
  • 00:42:18
    This finger here has a different function than this one.
  • 00:42:22
    You know, it's a different one.
  • 00:42:24
    Thumb, has different. I'm never going.
  • 00:42:26
    What am I doing here?
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    I want to grasp and do a pull up.
  • 00:42:28
    I want to maybe put you under my thumb.
  • 00:42:31
    My knee, my knee is something different.
  • 00:42:33
    Everything in the body has
  • 00:42:35
    something different that it does, right?
  • 00:42:36
    It's all to go different way.
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    Well, its the same way inside whenever
  • 00:42:45
    there's a group of people who follow Christ,
  • 00:42:47
    we all have different functions.
  • 00:42:49
    We all have different varied forms of grace
  • 00:42:54
    that enable us to all do some things
  • 00:42:58
    that somebody else can't do
  • 00:43:00
    and enables them to do something that we can't do.
  • 00:43:04
    It's all because of the grace.
  • 00:43:07
    1 Peter 4:10 says this:
  • 00:43:17
    Why does He bless us?
  • 00:43:19
    He blesses us because He loves us.
  • 00:43:21
    That's just in His nature.
  • 00:43:22
    And He blesses us and gives us grace
  • 00:43:26
    hoping that we're going to deploy it
  • 00:43:29
    to serve somebody else.
  • 00:43:30
    Now, this is going to sound really bad.
  • 00:43:32
    It's going to be really bad.
  • 00:43:34
    It's going to be a trigger word. Okay?
  • 00:43:36
    I don't want to use this word.
  • 00:43:38
    I've tried, I've prayed through.
  • 00:43:40
    Let's get synonymous words.
  • 00:43:41
    I don't think it fits,
  • 00:43:42
    so when I get this trigger word
  • 00:43:44
    I know it's going to sound very offensive.
  • 00:43:46
    I understand. Just let me define it. Okay?
  • 00:43:48
    Okay. Here we go.
  • 00:43:49
    When it comes to grace, God discriminates.
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    What do I mean by that?
  • 00:43:57
    It means He gives things to different people
  • 00:44:01
    with no desire for consistency
  • 00:44:03
    and there's things that you're going to get
  • 00:44:05
    that I have no shot of ever getting.
  • 00:44:07
    I'm discriminated against.
  • 00:44:08
    Not according to race.
  • 00:44:10
    Not according to financial abilities.
  • 00:44:13
    Not according to looks.
  • 00:44:14
    But there's just things that you get
  • 00:44:17
    that I'm not going to get
  • 00:44:18
    and there's things that I get
  • 00:44:20
    that you're not going to get.
  • 00:44:22
    There's things that I do that you can't do
  • 00:44:24
    and there's things that you do that I can't do,
  • 00:44:26
    and the person next to you.
  • 00:44:27
    And this is the message of this passage in Romans.
  • 00:44:31
    There's varied grace.
  • 00:44:32
    And we all have different things and there's
  • 00:44:35
    all things that many of us are not going to get.
  • 00:44:37
    I get asked pretty frequently,
  • 00:44:39
    "Do you ever get nervous when you get up there,
  • 00:44:40
    when you speak, do you get nervous?"
  • 00:44:42
    And the answer is always the same,
  • 00:44:43
    "No, never been nervous a day in my life
  • 00:44:45
    whenever I spoke. Never, ever."
  • 00:44:46
    Now, if you ask me on Tuesday, yes.
  • 00:44:49
    Because on Tuesday I'm working out my content
  • 00:44:51
    and I'm thinking, "Oh man, I don't know if
  • 00:44:52
    I'm going to get this, I don't know
  • 00:44:54
    if this is going to be any good."
  • 00:44:55
    So Tuesday, Wednesday, but when it comes
  • 00:44:57
    before me to get on stage, whether, wherever it is,
  • 00:44:59
    any number of people, no, never, ever nervous, never happen.
  • 00:45:03
    That's not because I'm really smart and self-confident.
  • 00:45:06
    It's because there's a grace that's on me doing this thing.
  • 00:45:11
    When I was in sixth grade,
  • 00:45:13
    I had Mr. Utterback was my teacher.
  • 00:45:16
    And he did this thing, he'd do it every month or so.
  • 00:45:20
    Every other month he would pull out everything in his desk,
  • 00:45:25
    pull open all the drawers and pull out staplers
  • 00:45:27
    and pens and and he'd spread it out over the desk.
  • 00:45:30
    And I remember going, "What is he doing?"
  • 00:45:32
    The first time he did it, he went, "Okay,
  • 00:45:34
    now everybody, I'm going to call on
  • 00:45:36
    you have to come up here and pick up this object
  • 00:45:39
    and talk about it for two minutes."
  • 00:45:41
    And you could see kids in the class go...
  • 00:45:44
    They just like, Oh, no.
  • 00:45:46
    They're like making sure he wouldn't see them.
  • 00:45:49
    Me, I heard this and went, "Oh, that sounds fun."
  • 00:45:52
    I'm sitting there, I'm like...
  • 00:45:55
    I'm like, this could be fun.
  • 00:45:56
    He called on me and come up and gave me a stapler.
  • 00:45:58
    Stapler? This is a metal device
  • 00:46:01
    that actually shoots metal into paper.
  • 00:46:03
    It comes into the paper and curls around to hold it.
  • 00:46:06
    Otherwise, I'm not going to make it two minutes,
  • 00:46:08
    so I better start making stuff up.
  • 00:46:09
    And some people use it as a gun.
  • 00:46:11
    They open it all the way up and they start pulling it.
  • 00:46:13
    And I'm just going, it was a great time.
  • 00:46:15
    It was wonderful.
  • 00:46:16
    Before I received Jesus, before I had the Holy Spirit,
  • 00:46:20
    there was a grace on me as it relates to public speaking.
  • 00:46:24
    A varied grace. Now, let me go a little further.
  • 00:46:27
    I've gotten your emails.
  • 00:46:29
    I know, I know. I know. You told me. You told me.
  • 00:46:32
    That is why I had my friend come preach
  • 00:46:34
    a couple months ago, Matt Chandler.
  • 00:46:37
    He was better than me. [laughter]
  • 00:46:39
    Yes, you told me. I know. I know.
  • 00:46:42
    Because you know why?
  • 00:46:44
    Matt has more grace as a preacher than I do.
  • 00:46:48
    He just does.
  • 00:46:50
    I want to improve. I've been improving.
  • 00:46:53
    I understand I'm half decent, but hear me,
  • 00:46:56
    I listen to Matt as I hear Matt, I listen.
  • 00:46:58
    I'm going, "I am such a loser. I can't."
  • 00:47:01
    The guy doesn't stumble on a single word.
  • 00:47:04
    He just, like, commands everything.
  • 00:47:06
    He always has the right word at the right time.
  • 00:47:08
    He probably spent ten minutes in preparation.
  • 00:47:10
    It was just smooth, like, smooth move Ex-lax,
  • 00:47:13
    is what I told him. It's amazing.
  • 00:47:14
    It's just like the whole thing.
  • 00:47:16
    And I honestly, I just, like, I wasn't bitter.
  • 00:47:19
    I was like, "Wow, that's amazing."
  • 00:47:21
    The grace of God has come to him
  • 00:47:23
    for him to do what he does.
  • 00:47:25
    And there's -- I'm just talking about
  • 00:47:26
    some of the flashy gifts right now.
  • 00:47:28
    But I'll tell you what, there's varied grace
  • 00:47:30
    that will come to you as well.
  • 00:47:31
    It comes to you that may not be on a stage
  • 00:47:34
    or may not be as flashy.
  • 00:47:35
    But I'll tell you what, it's significant.
  • 00:47:37
    It's important.
  • 00:47:41
    I'll talk about those in just a little bit.
  • 00:47:43
    But all of us have things that God's blessed us with
  • 00:47:46
    that other someone hasn't and it doesn't make sense.
  • 00:47:49
    My parents are in town this weekend.
  • 00:47:51
    It's great to have them around
  • 00:47:52
    and I'm just reminded of ways that I've gotten grace from God
  • 00:47:55
    as a result of them being my parents.
  • 00:47:56
    I was adopted at birth and came into their family.
  • 00:47:59
    And by nature, I am not a student by nature.
  • 00:48:05
    I am not one who understands numbers, not by nature.
  • 00:48:08
    Right?
  • 00:48:11
    And they by nature are. and they with their values,
  • 00:48:14
    were let's save, let's save,
  • 00:48:16
    let's save save for kids education."
  • 00:48:18
    So here comes me not valuing education at all
  • 00:48:22
    and them paying for all of my education,
  • 00:48:24
    including classes I dropped and I had to redo.
  • 00:48:27
    And I come out of college. I'm glad they did.
  • 00:48:30
    I'm glad I have it now, college and seminary.
  • 00:48:32
    I actually got my act together in seminary a bit.
  • 00:48:34
    But I came out of college, no debt.
  • 00:48:36
    I have no educational debt.
  • 00:48:37
    And you know what? That's not fair.
  • 00:48:40
    Because some of you value education
  • 00:48:41
    and have a mind for education more than I do.
  • 00:48:45
    And you didn't have somebody to pay your way
  • 00:48:48
    or you didn't even have the grades
  • 00:48:50
    to get a scholarship or whatever it was.
  • 00:48:52
    I can't explain it.
  • 00:48:54
    I got put in this family
  • 00:48:55
    and I didn't do anything to earn it.
  • 00:48:56
    And there's things as well
  • 00:48:58
    that you haven't done anything to earn,
  • 00:49:00
    you just have it.
  • 00:49:02
    Another one of mine is I just have a crazy immune system.
  • 00:49:06
    It's -- when I get sick, which is, like, never,
  • 00:49:09
    people work with me get really freaked out
  • 00:49:11
    that Jesus is returning because they're like,
  • 00:49:13
    "This is just--"
  • 00:49:16
    COVID, I never got anything on COVID.
  • 00:49:19
    I'm a asymmetric, asymmetrical,
  • 00:49:23
    asymptomatic, whatever it is.
  • 00:49:26
    Matt Chandler would have known the right word immediately.
  • 00:49:33
    If I had COVID, I'm a -- What's it again? Asymptomatic.
  • 00:49:38
    I'm asymptomatic.
  • 00:49:39
    I went to, this is going to really bother some of you.
  • 00:49:42
    So relax. Give grace.
  • 00:49:47
    Last week I got vaccinated.
  • 00:49:50
    Oh, my gosh. Woo! I know.
  • 00:49:53
    I got the shingles vaccination.
  • 00:49:55
    And sure enough, the next day, I'm like,
  • 00:49:58
    "What is what is going on?"
  • 00:50:00
    And I said to my wife said, "What is it?"
  • 00:50:01
    She said, "That's what it feels like to be sick.
  • 00:50:04
    You just never are." Oh, okay. Okay. I got it.
  • 00:50:08
    It doesn't mean I'm not going to get sick.
  • 00:50:10
    It doesn't mean I'm not going to come down
  • 00:50:12
    with something really awful next week.
  • 00:50:13
    I'm just saying, generally, there's a grace
  • 00:50:15
    that I've had in that area that you may not have had,
  • 00:50:18
    and there's grace that you have that I don't have.
  • 00:50:20
    This last week I went to our our CFO at Crossroads,
  • 00:50:25
    Season Huff, and I had some personal financial stuff
  • 00:50:27
    I was trying to wrestle through.
  • 00:50:29
    And I just was having a hard time
  • 00:50:30
    understanding the percentages and the allocations
  • 00:50:32
    and I just -- she knows how much I make anyway,
  • 00:50:35
    so like, "Hey, let's would you do this math for me?
  • 00:50:37
    Double check me?" Now, yes, I can do math.
  • 00:50:40
    Yes, I can, but not as easily as Season.
  • 00:50:44
    And joyfully. I'm like, I got to go down there.
  • 00:50:47
    She's got a grace.
  • 00:50:48
    She always has a grace on her for numbers.
  • 00:50:50
    It's wonderful. I wish I did.
  • 00:50:52
    I just don't. I got to be just barely passable.
  • 00:50:56
    But she has this, and you probably do too,
  • 00:50:59
    ways that you're just amazing.
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    Maybe the gift of grace and mercy,
  • 00:51:03
    people are sick and they want to be around you.
  • 00:51:05
    It's great because you have this grace that pervades people.
  • 00:51:10
    When people are sick, they don't want me around them.
  • 00:51:15
    Like, especially if you're in the hospital.
  • 00:51:17
    I'm like the angel of death.
  • 00:51:18
    You don't want to see me walking into your bedroom,
  • 00:51:20
    it means you're going to die in probably a month
  • 00:51:22
    or something like that.
  • 00:51:23
    It's bad news because I just don't have
  • 00:51:25
    that grace of natural empathizing.
  • 00:51:27
    And I'll talk about this a moment,
  • 00:51:28
    I'm growing in that and I need to grow in that.
  • 00:51:30
    But all I'm saying, this whole --
  • 00:51:31
    hold that point for a moment, all I'm saying is this,
  • 00:51:34
    you just have to recognize there's things
  • 00:51:35
    that God has blessed you with, it's His grace.
  • 00:51:38
    You haven't worked for it. It's His favor.
  • 00:51:42
    And what's great being part of a church
  • 00:51:44
    or part of a community is you get to see
  • 00:51:46
    His favor in so many people in different ways.
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    Tina McKinley, who's up in Mason,
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    has this amazing -- talk about empathy,
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    amazing grace of empathy to connect with people.
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    And she leads people through baptisms
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    and she does pre-baptism meetings.
  • 00:52:02
    She actually likes pre-baptism meetings
  • 00:52:05
    and has brought people to Christ in pre-baptism meetings.
  • 00:52:07
    She has this unbelievable grace of empathy and connection.
  • 00:52:12
    Ian Benson who's up in our Dayton campus,
  • 00:52:15
    has actually been other Crossroads campus
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    based on where he's lived.
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    He's in Dayton right now.
  • 00:52:19
    He, even though he's a software designer,
  • 00:52:21
    he has this grace of working with kids.
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    He goes to summer school, or excuse me,
  • 00:52:28
    middle school and high school camp every year
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    because he likes to and doesn't get paid.
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    And our student ministry in Dayton,
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    as is other places, are just really taken off.
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    It's because of grace that's on people like him.
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    When I am at Man Camp, I like to post up,
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    or Couples Camp, I post up at this corner.
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    At Couples Camp, if you've ever been there,
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    you know, as you come in, it's called Kissing Corner.
  • 00:52:51
    You have to kiss your spouse before you keep going.
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    At Man Camp, the same place I call Heckler's Corner.
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    I just help guys coming in and then verbally abusing you.
  • 00:53:00
    It's wonderful. It's one of my --
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    It's one of my love languages, so I'll just --
  • 00:53:05
    It's all, one time a guy's coming in
  • 00:53:07
    and I see Otis and God prompts me says,
  • 00:53:11
    "Tell Otis he's speaking this weekend."
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    I went, "Otis, at some point this weekend
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    I'm going to call you up to speak and just say something."
  • 00:53:21
    He goes, okay, and keeps going.
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    In a session, the middle session,
  • 00:53:25
    I thought, "Now's the time."
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    "Otis, are you here? I want you.
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    I know you were supposed to speak. This is your time."
  • 00:53:30
    Comes up, Otis has like seven minutes,
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    crushes it, utterly crushes it.
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    He actually is a motivational speaker,
  • 00:53:36
    it's kind of what he does. He's amazing.
  • 00:53:39
    Otis has a grace on him on that that's stunning.
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    And he volunteers every Vet Camp,
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    every Vet Camp, every Man Camp.
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    And his grace pervades people.
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    And out of humility, he doesn't get a fee,
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    like none of us do at camps because he's volunteering.
  • 00:53:55
    Wendy Abernathy Perkins up in Columbus.
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    Wendy has a crazy, crazy ability
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    to empathize with people who aren't like her.
  • 00:54:05
    She gets people in groups because people,
  • 00:54:08
    no matter what gender you are or whatever,
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    you just -- she has this way to just make you feel
  • 00:54:14
    like you're a part of things.
  • 00:54:17
    Spooky from what I understand. Spooky.
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    And it's what Grace is.
  • 00:54:23
    See, Grace is varied.
  • 00:54:24
    It comes in all different ways, shapes and forms.
  • 00:54:26
    And it's always hoping that we serve one another.
  • 00:54:31
    Let's keep going. Verse six, verse six.
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    Having gifts that differ
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    according to the grace given to us.
  • 00:54:36
    See that? They differ according to what?
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    According to the grace, because grace is varied.
  • 00:54:50
    Spiritually encouraging people,
  • 00:54:52
    that's the New Testament version of prophecy.
  • 00:55:12
    Some of us who have the grace for mercy, we're cheerful.
  • 00:55:16
    Like, someone is hurting, we're like,
  • 00:55:18
    "Oh, good, I get to be deployed."
  • 00:55:20
    We're not good that they're hurting, but it's like,
  • 00:55:22
    "Whew, it's great. I know I can bless this person."
  • 00:55:24
    Those of us who don't have the grace of mercy,
  • 00:55:27
    we still have to offer mercy, but we get nervous about it.
  • 00:55:30
    Like, "Oh no, I hope I say the right thing. I hope."
  • 00:55:34
    All these things are listed
  • 00:55:36
    are all things all of us need to do.
  • 00:55:38
    You may not have the spiritual gift that comes
  • 00:55:42
    from the grace or the favor of teaching,
  • 00:55:44
    but if you're a parent, you're going to teach.
  • 00:55:47
    If you're in a group, you're going to say
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    something that's going to help somebody else.
  • 00:55:51
    You may not all have -- we may not have
  • 00:55:53
    the grace of generosity as it talks about here.
  • 00:55:56
    But we all need to be generous.
  • 00:55:58
    We all need to get to a tithe at least.
  • 00:56:00
    But those of us who have the gift,
  • 00:56:02
    the gift of generosity,
  • 00:56:04
    when they see what God's giving them,
  • 00:56:05
    they're like, "Tithe, smithe,"
  • 00:56:07
    they're giving 15, 20, 30, 40, 50% of their income.
  • 00:56:11
    And God has blessed them to do that.
  • 00:56:12
    And they do that and they love it.
  • 00:56:14
    In fact, when you have the grace of giving,
  • 00:56:16
    you look at someone like me that isn't at 50%
  • 00:56:19
    and you're like, "You're a loser, what is your problem?"
  • 00:56:22
    Because grace goes, "How do people not get this?"
  • 00:56:26
    Leading, when you lead it's the grace of God's given you.
  • 00:56:29
    It's a thing of zeal.
  • 00:56:30
    You have to do it zealously, excitedly, like,
  • 00:56:35
    "Hold on, God's blessed me with this.
  • 00:56:37
    I need to deploy it and go, go, go, go, go."
  • 00:56:42
    See, when we see grace as this thing
  • 00:56:45
    that God has blessed me with
  • 00:56:47
    and I'm about others and God,
  • 00:56:51
    I will put that into practice.
  • 00:56:53
    But if I'm about myself, because I'm prideful,
  • 00:56:56
    when God blesses me with something, gives me favor,
  • 00:56:59
    I just keep it here.
  • 00:57:01
    When God gives you favor, you naturally say,
  • 00:57:04
    "I need somebody else to have this.
  • 00:57:06
    I need to bless somebody else."
  • 00:57:09
    Grace caused us to have different gifts
  • 00:57:12
    and grace, when we deploy our gifts appropriately,
  • 00:57:16
    we get more grace.
  • 00:57:18
    At least that's what 2 Corinthians 9 indicates,
  • 00:57:20
    says this:
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    I love that. Abound.
  • 00:57:26
    Not like just enough grace to save you, no, abound.
  • 00:57:40
    I love this, riches, abounding, immeasurable.
  • 00:57:45
    These are all descriptors of what God has with grace.
  • 00:57:50
    It's not, like, just enough grace to get you to heaven.
  • 00:57:53
    It's grace upon grace upon grace.
  • 00:57:56
    And it says here that when we abound in good works,
  • 00:58:01
    when we put His favor into play,
  • 00:58:04
    we're taking a spot of humility.
  • 00:58:07
    And God is saying, "I need to give more grace there.
  • 00:58:12
    More favor needs to be going your way."
  • 00:58:15
    A mark of having favor, last point is this.
  • 00:58:17
    The mark of having favor is giving favor.
  • 00:58:22
    Whenever I meet somebody who won't cut somebody's slack,
  • 00:58:25
    won't give somebody a second chance,
  • 00:58:27
    won't be generous to somebody,
  • 00:58:29
    I know I'm meeting somebody who doesn't understand grace.
  • 00:58:32
    Because when you understand that God's been generous to you,
  • 00:58:35
    when you understand that God's given you slack,
  • 00:58:37
    when you understand God's giving you a second chance,
  • 00:58:40
    you're good to give to somebody else.
  • 00:58:42
    Now, here's something that's going to really bother you.
  • 00:58:45
    I'll say it anyway. I teach things that aren't true.
  • 00:58:53
    I don't know what they are, but I know I'm not inerrant.
  • 00:58:58
    I know as much as I prepare, I know there's things
  • 00:59:01
    that I say that aren't true.
  • 00:59:03
    Why do I know that?
  • 00:59:04
    Because I'm human, number one.
  • 00:59:06
    And number two, 15 years ago,
  • 00:59:08
    I believed something about something else
  • 00:59:10
    and I changed my mind and now I believe this.
  • 00:59:12
    So either then or now I'm wrong.
  • 00:59:14
    And guess what?
  • 00:59:16
    God can handle me and give me grace when I'm wrong.
  • 00:59:22
    God is okay when I'm thinking the wrong,
  • 00:59:26
    it doesn't affect our relationship. He still loves me.
  • 00:59:28
    Let me ask you this:
  • 00:59:29
    Are you okay when somebody else is wrong,
  • 00:59:32
    or you just always upset and angry
  • 00:59:34
    because someone doesn't think like you?
  • 00:59:36
    See God is okay when I'm not thinking like Him.
  • 00:59:38
    He wants to bring me to another place.
  • 00:59:39
    And I'm not saying there's no such thing as truth.
  • 00:59:41
    There is. There's a standard in truth,
  • 00:59:43
    and God is the standard.
  • 00:59:44
    What I'm saying is God gives me grace when I'm off.
  • 00:59:48
    Are we giving people grace when they're off?
  • 00:59:51
    And not only that, maybe they're not off.
  • 01:00:03
    And when you're in love with God,
  • 01:00:04
    when you're in love with the grace of God,
  • 01:00:07
    you appreciate His grace,
  • 01:00:08
    you don't appreciate being right.
  • 01:00:10
    That's not the point. It's being close to God.
  • 01:00:14
    It's having His grace.
  • 01:00:17
    Jesus says, "To whom much is given, much is required."
  • 01:00:22
    And when I used to hear that verse before,
  • 01:00:24
    I used to feel like guilt and obligation.
  • 01:00:26
    "Oh, okay. I have nice things.
  • 01:00:29
    I need to do more for people.
  • 01:00:30
    Oh, much required.
  • 01:00:31
    So God's going to grade me on a higher level."
  • 01:00:33
    I don't think that's what He's talking about here.
  • 01:00:35
    If we think about that as favor,
  • 01:00:39
    to whom God has given much favor.
  • 01:00:42
    Which we have favor living in the United States
  • 01:00:44
    versus Russia, for instance.
  • 01:00:47
    God bless Russia or God likes Russia.
  • 01:00:48
    God loves people in Russia.
  • 01:00:50
    But gosh, I'm not trying to just get political.
  • 01:00:52
    I'm just saying -- I'm just --I'm just trying --
  • 01:00:54
    I'm just trying to say I think we all agree
  • 01:00:56
    there's some countries we would rather not live in.
  • 01:00:58
    I won't call them out by name anymore. Right?
  • 01:01:01
    So if I believe it's an act of God's favor
  • 01:01:05
    for me to have or be the place I am,
  • 01:01:08
    maybe that propels me to give that favor
  • 01:01:11
    to somebody else, to bless somebody else.
  • 01:01:17
    You might ask, why are you always talking about Camps?
  • 01:01:19
    Why are you to Camps? Why, why?
  • 01:01:20
    Why is Crossroads spend a lot of money on getting property?
  • 01:01:24
    And we got all kinds of Camps.
  • 01:01:25
    I got like Man Camp, Woman Camp, Couples Camp,
  • 01:01:28
    Father Son Camp, Mother Daughter Camp,
  • 01:01:32
    Vet Camp, Dyslexic Chihuahua Camp.
  • 01:01:35
    I mean, we got - -We got, like, all of them, right?
  • 01:01:39
    Speaking of that, speaking of dyslexics.
  • 01:01:45
    A dyslexic, hear the one about the --
  • 01:01:48
    a dyslexic walks into a bra.
  • 01:01:51
    Wait a minute. Bar, sorry, bar.
  • 01:01:55
    That's the end of the joke. That's the end of the joke.
  • 01:01:57
    Now, here's the great thing about that,
  • 01:02:00
    people I've talked to who are dyslexic,
  • 01:02:02
    they think that's amazing.
  • 01:02:03
    Those of you who aren't dyslexic,
  • 01:02:04
    you're hating on me big right now.
  • 01:02:07
    Let's just relax. Anyway, back to Camps.
  • 01:02:10
    That's what got me on this whole thing anyway.
  • 01:02:12
    What got me on this whole thing was this:
  • 01:02:14
    God met me and I felt a grace of God
  • 01:02:17
    when I was camping with friends.
  • 01:02:18
    I felt a level of spiritual nourishment,
  • 01:02:21
    of vulnerability, of opening up my life.
  • 01:02:23
    And God prompted me and others who I was with
  • 01:02:27
    at a specific campsite saying,
  • 01:02:29
    how can we give this to other people?
  • 01:02:31
    And that is how Camps was born.
  • 01:02:34
    And I don't need it for my personal time.
  • 01:02:36
    I don't make any money off of camps.
  • 01:02:38
    It's like I don't get a speaking fee.
  • 01:02:40
    It's more responsibility for this and that.
  • 01:02:42
    But it's a grace that I've experienced
  • 01:02:45
    in seeing literal healings happen on our land.
  • 01:02:48
    Physical healings, literal physical healings,
  • 01:02:51
    spiritual healings, reunifications in marriages,
  • 01:02:55
    and hundreds and, gosh, thousands probably by now,
  • 01:02:58
    baptisms in a skanky pond.
  • 01:03:01
    And it's all because grace was given to people.
  • 01:03:04
    We said, "We need to make this available
  • 01:03:06
    to other people and to whom much is given, much is required."
  • 01:03:10
    And so in my leadership, it tells me
  • 01:03:12
    if I have a gift of leadership, I need to do it zealously.
  • 01:03:15
    I need to go, I need to push because that's
  • 01:03:17
    where the favor of God would have me go.
  • 01:03:19
    And I would say the same thing to you.
  • 01:03:21
    What is the favor God has given you?
  • 01:03:23
    Thank Him for it, wrap your arms around it,
  • 01:03:26
    be overjoyed for it, enjoy it.
  • 01:03:29
    And how can you deploy it?
  • 01:03:32
    How can you happily and faithfully and gracefully
  • 01:03:37
    put that into play in the lives of others?
  • 01:03:39
    And when you do that, you will be a humble servant.
  • 01:03:43
    And a humble servant is the one who God looks at
  • 01:03:46
    and says, "Hmm, hmm, that's where I'm giving grace."
  • 01:03:49
    Philippians 2 says this, had the same mind in you
  • 01:03:53
    that was also in Christ, that though He existed
  • 01:03:55
    in the form of God, did not consider equality with God
  • 01:03:58
    something to be grasped, but emptied Himself,
  • 01:04:02
    Jesus emptied Himself and gave up His life to death,
  • 01:04:05
    even death on a cross.
  • 01:04:08
    Therefore, therefore, at the name of Jesus,
  • 01:04:11
    every tongue, knee shall bow, by every tongue confess
  • 01:04:13
    that Jesus is Lord, because God has hyper exalted His name.
  • 01:04:17
    That's about the humility of Jesus
  • 01:04:19
    and His action to give grace and lay His life down
  • 01:04:23
    has then cause God to say, "Hey,
  • 01:04:25
    we're going to make you, elevate your name,"
  • 01:04:27
    because He is the best known name in all of the world.
  • 01:04:30
    There's not even a close second.
  • 01:04:31
    Not even a close second.
  • 01:04:33
    He's the most well known name,
  • 01:04:35
    the most respected name in entire human history.
  • 01:04:39
    It's because of the favor of God that He's modeling for us.
  • 01:04:43
    Elevate your game by enjoying the favor of God
  • 01:04:46
    and blessing others with it.
  • 01:04:48
    God, I'm thankful for our time, and I'm thankful for Your grace.
  • 01:04:51
    I can't describe it enough. I can't.
  • 01:04:53
    I feel frustrated.
  • 01:04:54
    It's like it's so deep and so great,
  • 01:04:56
    I just can't get it right.
  • 01:04:57
    I'm getting closer, but it's like trying to
  • 01:05:00
    describe splitting an atom. I just can't do it.
  • 01:05:02
    But I know the closer we get to it,
  • 01:05:06
    whatever rudimentary understanding we're coming to
  • 01:05:09
    is the closer we're getting to love
  • 01:05:11
    and forgiveness and joy and happiness and peace.
  • 01:05:14
    Thank You for being so patient and so kind.
  • 01:05:17
    You are so good and so grateful.
  • 01:05:20
    I pray these things according to the name of Jesus. Amen.
  • 01:05:27
    - Thanks for watching.
  • 01:05:28
    Since you stuck around, I want to give you
  • 01:05:29
    a next step and a challenge to not let
  • 01:05:32
    this be your only time you spend with God this week.
  • 01:05:35
    Download the Crossroads app for iPhone or Android
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    and spend time with God daily in the app.
  • 01:05:40
    It will give you prompts to follow, Scripture to read.
  • 01:05:43
    You can ask for prayer and pray for others
  • 01:05:45
    and connect with other people.
  • 01:05:46
    It's probably one of the only apps on your phone
  • 01:05:49
    that is going to have a positive impact on your life.
  • 01:05:52
    So download the app today at crossroads.net/app.
  • 01:05:56
    And we'll see you next week when Andy Reider
  • 01:05:57
    talks about how we all experience grace
  • 01:06:00
    in different ways.

Aug 27, 2023 • 1 hr 6 mins 10 sec

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